Am I Too Sensitive, or Is My Partner Uncaring?

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We invest our entire lives into our relationships, which can drive our emotions high when we feel our partner is uncaring. Any amount of sensitivity that we possess can go into overload status when we feel frustrated, hurt, ignored, or invalidated. There are many reasons why a partner may perceive an imbalance with their partner in their levels of feelings and shared empathy in a relationship, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer.

What Are the Non-Negotiables for Your Relationship?

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Compromise is always important to a healthy relationship. But what happens when compromise feels wrong, and you no longer want to negotiate? What are the non-negotiables for your relationship, and how do you talk to your partner about them?

My Partner Has Stopped Meeting My Needs

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Most healthy relationships include five core elements: open communication, equal power, having your own lives outside of the relationship, trust and honesty, resolving conflict respectfully, and emotional intimacy. When one partner withdraws emotionally or physically from a relationship, a chasm is created that works against open communication, trust and honesty, and (especially) emotional intimacy. This dysfunction can be difficult to understand and leaves the partner who feels left alone confused and unsettled – and pining for an answer.

Does Marriage Have to Be Hard?

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There are literally endless reasons why a marriage or a long-term relationship can feel difficult, for example, poor conflict navigation, lack of work/life balance, infidelity, and waning intimacy. Studies indicate that stressful life transitions, such as having children, moving to a different home, job loss or change, and major illness or injury, can lead to a decline in how partners feel about their relationship, and this can make maintaining a relationship feel much harder.

Episode 10: Why Does My Partner Only Pay Attention When I Threaten to Leave?

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Neuroscience tells us that when we threaten, others will pay attention – because the brain goes into its natural response state to threats – the flight/fright/freeze response. But how do you get your partner to pay attention, without resorting to threats? If you want your partner to pay attention, you should pay attention to these three things.

Why the First Year of Marriage Is So Hard – And How to Get Through It Together

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You have married your special person and now your life together feels incredibly hard. You may wonder what is wrong with your marriage, “We have not even been married a year yet!” You may be concerned about stirring up more conflict with your spouse, so you avoid approaching the topic. You might not seek advice from others, not even your best friend, because you do not want anyone to think that your marriage is falling apart. If this describes your scenario, know that what you are experiencing is common.

Yes, You Can Say NO! Prioritizing your Relationship Over Your Job

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Setting boundaries in our relationships and at work can be hard and is especially tough for people in high-pressure fields, like the medical field, or for those who work as first responders, but setting those boundaries – both at work and in your relationship – is critical. When we talk about boundaries, there are three […]

Why Does She Always Need Space?

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It is not uncommon for a relationship to involve one partner that needs frequent quiet and alone time, while the other requires more social interaction. These types of differences can be a smooth and workable part of any relationship when both partners understand that they are navigating personality trait differences, namely extroversion and introversion.  

Episode 9: The Importance of a Marriage Tune-up

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When the honeymoon phase is long over, we need to work to be more intentional – to bring novelty back into the relationship. To let your partner know that you see them, you understand them, and you want them. One way you can do this is by checking in with each other and your marriage regularly, and recognizing the areas where your relationship might need a tune-up.