Does a Midlife Crisis Lead to Divorce?

Cartoons often depict middle-aged people amid a midlife crisis indulging in out-of-character purchases and activities – red sports cars, motorcycles, skydiving, and dressing like teenagers, with a spouse at their side wondering, “What is going on? Who is this person that I no longer know? Are we heading to divorce court?” Setting those images aside, a midlife crisis involves much more than acting like a person who is twenty+ years younger, and it does not always lead to separation in a marriage.

How to Achieve Work-Life Balance in Your Relationship

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Work-life balance is not described by a set of percentages that depict how much time a person spends at home and how much time is spent at work. Work-life balance is a goal that depicts a proportion between the demands and needs of an individual’s personal, professional, and family life. When we achieve work-life balance, it becomes a state of counterbalance that is both accountable and flexible, which strengthens family cohesion and relationship happiness. Relationships thrive on both give and take. The balance is never exactly even, but as each partner understands and accepts the give and the take, and flexibility is practiced, the relationship is nourished and is made a priority, even in the seasons when a busy or demanding work life requires extra time away from home. This is a healthy work-life balance.

You Are Not the Boss of Me at Home! Dropping the Boss Mindset in the Home

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How do you take off your work hat when you come home and negotiate with your spouse about making important decisions? How can you navigate how to have authority and power and control in the relationship? Who gives power and control? Who gets to make decisions? How do you make those decisions?

Episode 10: Why Does My Partner Only Pay Attention When I Threaten to Leave?

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Neuroscience tells us that when we threaten, others will pay attention – because the brain goes into its natural response state to threats – the flight/fright/freeze response. But how do you get your partner to pay attention, without resorting to threats? If you want your partner to pay attention, you should pay attention to these three things.

Yes, You Can Say NO! Prioritizing your Relationship Over Your Job

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Setting boundaries in our relationships and at work can be hard and is especially tough for people in high-pressure fields, like the medical field, or for those who work as first responders, but setting those boundaries – both at work and in your relationship – is critical. When we talk about boundaries, there are three […]

Episode 9: The Importance of a Marriage Tune-up

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When the honeymoon phase is long over, we need to work to be more intentional – to bring novelty back into the relationship. To let your partner know that you see them, you understand them, and you want them. One way you can do this is by checking in with each other and your marriage regularly, and recognizing the areas where your relationship might need a tune-up.

Living with a Critical Partner

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Romantic relationships typically start off with people that are on their best behavior. As a couple gets used to each other and the newness wanes off, partners begin to see their person as ‘real’ and complete, but not perfect. Nobody likes everything about their partner, however, and learning to navigate differences is crucial. It requires working together, and not habitually finding fault or criticizing the smallest of things.

Does Resentment Kill a Relationship?

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Resentment can really damage a relationship, but it doesn’t necessarily mean the end of the relationship. While we may think of anger being expressed as stomping around or slamming doors or, on the other hand, as giving the silent treatment, resentment is anger in another form. Resentment is just anger that isn’t being expressed. It’s being held inside, and that’s something that stays with us. It eventually seeps into the relationship.