Am I Too Sensitive, or Is My Partner Uncaring?

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We invest our entire lives into our relationships, which can drive our emotions high when we feel our partner is uncaring. Any amount of sensitivity that we possess can go into overload status when we feel frustrated, hurt, ignored, or invalidated. There are many reasons why a partner may perceive an imbalance with their partner in their levels of feelings and shared empathy in a relationship, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer.

What Are the Non-Negotiables for Your Relationship?

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Compromise is always important to a healthy relationship. But what happens when compromise feels wrong, and you no longer want to negotiate? What are the non-negotiables for your relationship, and how do you talk to your partner about them?

My Partner Has Stopped Meeting My Needs

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Most healthy relationships include five core elements: open communication, equal power, having your own lives outside of the relationship, trust and honesty, resolving conflict respectfully, and emotional intimacy. When one partner withdraws emotionally or physically from a relationship, a chasm is created that works against open communication, trust and honesty, and (especially) emotional intimacy. This dysfunction can be difficult to understand and leaves the partner who feels left alone confused and unsettled – and pining for an answer.

Does Marriage Have to Be Hard?

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There are literally endless reasons why a marriage or a long-term relationship can feel difficult, for example, poor conflict navigation, lack of work/life balance, infidelity, and waning intimacy. Studies indicate that stressful life transitions, such as having children, moving to a different home, job loss or change, and major illness or injury, can lead to a decline in how partners feel about their relationship, and this can make maintaining a relationship feel much harder.

Why the First Year of Marriage Is So Hard – And How to Get Through It Together

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You have married your special person and now your life together feels incredibly hard. You may wonder what is wrong with your marriage, “We have not even been married a year yet!” You may be concerned about stirring up more conflict with your spouse, so you avoid approaching the topic. You might not seek advice from others, not even your best friend, because you do not want anyone to think that your marriage is falling apart. If this describes your scenario, know that what you are experiencing is common.

Why Does She Always Need Space?

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It is not uncommon for a relationship to involve one partner that needs frequent quiet and alone time, while the other requires more social interaction. These types of differences can be a smooth and workable part of any relationship when both partners understand that they are navigating personality trait differences, namely extroversion and introversion.  

The “Sometimes” Abusive Partner and Ignoring Red Flags

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Nobody wants to experience abusive behavior in a relationship, but when it happens infrequently, or when it feels not so severe, it is common for the person on the receiving end to make excuses, find reasons to justify the behavior, deem it less important, blame oneself, or choose to ignore it. Red flags like this are often brushed under the rug: “My partner is not a stereotypical abusive person to me but there are times, like once a month or less, that they get mad and they throw things at me, or they break things. It seldom escalates to physical violence, but it has happened a few times.” Ignoring these red flags can be dangerous for oneself – mentally, physically, or both, and it is detrimental to relationships.

Moving Forward After an Affair – The Good, the Bad, and the Healthy Way to Move Forward

Coping with an affair may be one of the most difficult journeys that you experience in your life, and in the pain and complexity of it all, you may be wondering if you will heal, or if your relationship will survive. The truth is that you can heal. You can trust again. You can love again. Your relationship can survive, but recovery is a slow process, and it is never the same for everyone. It will take time and effort from both you and your partner.

Always Assume the Best

When we assume the best, we give our partner and our relationship space to be their very best – we cultivate an environment where open and honest communication thrives.